Finding Your Non-Negotiable Voice

Finding Your Non-Negotiable Voice

In the movie “A Christmas Story”, Ralphie the main character and narrator is sitting in the bathroom with soap in his mouth for dropping an F-bomb. He’s there gagging on the bar of soap and his mother comes in. She takes the soap out and orders him to bed. He grumbles as he’s walking away […]

The S*** Between You and It

The S*** Between You and It

You practice mindfulness, begin to meditate then your world explodes. You don’t understand why doing something supposedly good for you feels like shit and assume those peaceful looking people are actually on prescription drugs. Xanax anyone? You start yoga only the teacher can’t explain why you’re on the mat crying or raging because he went […]

In Defense of Ego and Energy

Similar to our physical body’s immune system we have one for our emotions and energy fields. All kinds of specialized systems and cells rush to the sites of injury to protect, isolate the danger, sometimes encapsulate and to heal. T-Cells, B-Cells, antibodies, phagocytes, plasma cells, neutrophils, inflammation responses, etc. Our bodies are a miracle of […]

Forgiveness Clears the Way for the Big Feels

We forgive ourselves not for shutting down due to our lack of skills but for our judgment of that clumsiness and the damage we’ve done to ourselves in order to survive.   And more importantly: for all the times we’ve passed up opportunities to repair said damage as adults. I have a woman in my […]

If You Can Train a Dog or Cat, You Can Train Yourself!

If you can train a dog you can train yourself. If you can train a cat you are even better equipped to train yourself into making and keeping commitments to self-care because really? Training a cat? Yeah it can be done but just like training yourself it takes commitment and consistency to get cumulative results. […]

A Final Plea to Prevent Burnout:Self-care for Advocates Series End

Recently a woman I know and have gotten a cat from (Ginger Rose who is currently living with my mom in Colorado) is closing her doors to her phenomenal cat rescue and TNR (trap-neuter-return) services because why? She’s burned the eff out. Her heart has in her own words “hardened”, she has no more tears […]