It Ain’t Over

It Ain’t Over

If someone is telling you their story – their cultural story, their personal story, etc. it’s far better to tell them you just can’t handle hearing it and walk away than to say, “Why can’t you just let the past be the past?” “Move on to the future, focus on the light!”. Statements like that […]

Letting Your Biscuits Cook

Letting Your Biscuits Cook

My Aunt Lorene made the best biscuits on the entire planet. It pains me no end that I will never have those biscuits again because no matter how she tried to train me I could never make them exactly the way she did. She threw flour, Crisco, salt, and milk or water into a bowl […]

Waves of Creation

Waves of Creation

Growing up in Texas it’s easy to take flowers for granted. They’re just there, literally all over the place most of the year. I spent an enormous amount of time studying those flowers, being aware of their comings and goings, colors, scent, all of it. First Lady Claudia “Lady Bird” Johnson, bless her, made sure […]

The S*** Between You and It

The S*** Between You and It

You practice mindfulness, begin to meditate then your world explodes. You don’t understand why doing something supposedly good for you feels like shit and assume those peaceful looking people are actually on prescription drugs. Xanax anyone? You start yoga only the teacher can’t explain why you’re on the mat crying or raging because he went […]

How We Talk About Power Matters

How We Talk About Power Matters

As I’m moving into discussions around body weight and power, growing older as a woman and power, seeing life through the lens of victim hood, etc. I find myself bumping up against the concepts and words “masculine/feminine”. I find I’m doing more explaining than I enjoy repeatedly clarifying that speaking of masculine and feminine power […]