Your Heart is Not A Commodity

We treat our Hearts as a commodity, offering love in exchange for security, support and a way to avoid own thought created demons. We trade our Hearts to each other. I’ll give you mine if you give me yours and all will be well until our Heart becomes lonely for Its own Home and wishes […]

Letting Your Biscuits Cook

Letting Your Biscuits Cook

My Aunt Lorene made the best biscuits on the entire planet. It pains me no end that I will never have those biscuits again because no matter how she tried to train me I could never make them exactly the way she did. She threw flour, Crisco, salt, and milk or water into a bowl […]

Can You Own the Love?

Can You Own the Love?

Shadow work, which is my primary focus, is not only looking at the rejected parts of you labeled as “negative”. It’s not just about loving your inner bitch or your petty childish thoughts. The harder challenge may be to own your beauty, how much you are loved by others and how much the world needs […]

How We Talk About Power Matters

How We Talk About Power Matters

As I’m moving into discussions around body weight and power, growing older as a woman and power, seeing life through the lens of victim hood, etc. I find myself bumping up against the concepts and words “masculine/feminine”. I find I’m doing more explaining than I enjoy repeatedly clarifying that speaking of masculine and feminine power […]

You Can Stop Being a Martyr Whenever You Want

I say the following with the most love and compassion in the world for you, me, all of us 🙂 You’re being called to wake up in your life. I’ve written about this before and am finding myself saying it almost daily. The time is now, the information is literally all around you. Wake up, […]

In Defense of Ego and Energy

Similar to our physical body’s immune system we have one for our emotions and energy fields. All kinds of specialized systems and cells rush to the sites of injury to protect, isolate the danger, sometimes encapsulate and to heal. T-Cells, B-Cells, antibodies, phagocytes, plasma cells, neutrophils, inflammation responses, etc. Our bodies are a miracle of […]

Forgiveness Clears the Way for the Big Feels

We forgive ourselves not for shutting down due to our lack of skills but for our judgment of that clumsiness and the damage we’ve done to ourselves in order to survive.   And more importantly: for all the times we’ve passed up opportunities to repair said damage as adults. I have a woman in my […]

A Final Plea to Prevent Burnout:Self-care for Advocates Series End

Recently a woman I know and have gotten a cat from (Ginger Rose who is currently living with my mom in Colorado) is closing her doors to her phenomenal cat rescue and TNR (trap-neuter-return) services because why? She’s burned the eff out. Her heart has in her own words “hardened”, she has no more tears […]